I didn't just complain, last night, I cried and cussed.
My poor husband. *bigsigh*
Wednesday, December 30, 2009
The end of the year...should I complain?
Well, here we are at the end of another year. All and all, it has been a good year. Yes, I can complain about all the bad and sad things that have happened. I could complain about the aggravating and frustrating events that have taken place. I could even complain about not getting my way but, you know what, why should I?
Why should I complain? I am still on this earth to live another day. Toward the end of this year, we have lost a few family members, some by their choosing, others didn't have a choice. We have also lost a few friends, all of whom didn't have a choice. Complain, why complain? My sister has had neck surgery and is suffering from fibromyalgia. The neck surgery is only a temporary fix for her ailment and the fibromyalgia will be with her the rest of her life. She has been very brave and doesn't complain. Complain, why should I complain?
Why should I complain? We have had a family member taken to the very edge of death through treatment for Hodgkin's. That same family member made a few poor decisions not too long ago. There is a huge price to pay for both decisions. He is getting well, he has a beautiful young son that idiolizes him. If any body had a reason to complain, he does. He has been hit with Hodgkin's 3 times, he has lost a wife, his ex-fiance has been steeling from his bank account, and he is now jobless as a result of his poor decision. He doesn't complain and neither will I.
What good is complaining? It only extends any worrying and unhappiness. I have sat around long enough feeling sorry for myself because I have had a health issue or 2. I have made myself miserable. Has the complaining done me any good? Heck, no. I am stopping now and doing something positive to regain the health I have enjoyed all my life while I still have time to do that. Complaining is just getting in the way of that.
Is complaining doing me any good? I have been a bitch to my husband just because he didn't get me something for Christmas to open, something that I didn't know I was getting. I felt so disappointed because I have done so much for him and the son-in-law over the last 5 months and I felt like neither of them thought of me. Well, the son-in-law didn't but that doesn't matter, he isn't high priority in my life. I know my husband was thinking of me as he helped me with getting our home ready for guest and helped me cook the food we ate on Christmas Eve. So what, he didn't get me that big surprise Christmas present. Why complain? He is a good man and I am lucky to have him. He takes care of me and is very unselfish. If I keep complaining like I have, I could lose him and then what would I have? Nothing. Complain, nope, it isn't doing me any good. It is time to stop.
Complaining has become a way of life for some people. Those people are never happy. Nothing is ever right. They don't understand why no one wants to be around them for long. The negativity of complaining has taken over every aspect of their life. Is that how I want my life? I have a low tolerance for complaining and I have been doing my fair share of it over the last few months. It is time to stop, I don't want to be unhappy and I want people to like me and want to be around me. Complaining is not going to become a way of life for me.
Complain? Should I complain? Why? Why should I complain?
My life is very, very good as compared to many other peoples lives that have little control over the bad luck and uncontrollable events that may happen to them. I am very lucky to have what I have and I am going to enjoy it with out COMPLAINING. :)
Why should I complain? I am still on this earth to live another day. Toward the end of this year, we have lost a few family members, some by their choosing, others didn't have a choice. We have also lost a few friends, all of whom didn't have a choice. Complain, why complain? My sister has had neck surgery and is suffering from fibromyalgia. The neck surgery is only a temporary fix for her ailment and the fibromyalgia will be with her the rest of her life. She has been very brave and doesn't complain. Complain, why should I complain?
Why should I complain? We have had a family member taken to the very edge of death through treatment for Hodgkin's. That same family member made a few poor decisions not too long ago. There is a huge price to pay for both decisions. He is getting well, he has a beautiful young son that idiolizes him. If any body had a reason to complain, he does. He has been hit with Hodgkin's 3 times, he has lost a wife, his ex-fiance has been steeling from his bank account, and he is now jobless as a result of his poor decision. He doesn't complain and neither will I.
What good is complaining? It only extends any worrying and unhappiness. I have sat around long enough feeling sorry for myself because I have had a health issue or 2. I have made myself miserable. Has the complaining done me any good? Heck, no. I am stopping now and doing something positive to regain the health I have enjoyed all my life while I still have time to do that. Complaining is just getting in the way of that.
Is complaining doing me any good? I have been a bitch to my husband just because he didn't get me something for Christmas to open, something that I didn't know I was getting. I felt so disappointed because I have done so much for him and the son-in-law over the last 5 months and I felt like neither of them thought of me. Well, the son-in-law didn't but that doesn't matter, he isn't high priority in my life. I know my husband was thinking of me as he helped me with getting our home ready for guest and helped me cook the food we ate on Christmas Eve. So what, he didn't get me that big surprise Christmas present. Why complain? He is a good man and I am lucky to have him. He takes care of me and is very unselfish. If I keep complaining like I have, I could lose him and then what would I have? Nothing. Complain, nope, it isn't doing me any good. It is time to stop.
Complaining has become a way of life for some people. Those people are never happy. Nothing is ever right. They don't understand why no one wants to be around them for long. The negativity of complaining has taken over every aspect of their life. Is that how I want my life? I have a low tolerance for complaining and I have been doing my fair share of it over the last few months. It is time to stop, I don't want to be unhappy and I want people to like me and want to be around me. Complaining is not going to become a way of life for me.
Complain? Should I complain? Why? Why should I complain?
My life is very, very good as compared to many other peoples lives that have little control over the bad luck and uncontrollable events that may happen to them. I am very lucky to have what I have and I am going to enjoy it with out COMPLAINING. :)
Tuesday, November 24, 2009
The Last 2 Months
The last 2 months have been crazy, sad, and very frustrating. Below is a list of things that have happened.
1. DH's uncle committed suicide. DH was not close to him but it is sad just the same.
2. My sister-in-law's father died from bone cancer. Very, very sad in that he suffered so much from that nasty disease. My sister-in-law put on a brave face but she was pretty devastated from the whole ordeal. She spoke to me at times when she felt others were being unfair or expected her to do things differently. She spoke to me because I told her that she had to do things her way and not the way others thought she should. I told her that because I lost my sister to cancer and I was the 1 who had to put on the brave face and I handled things in a way that would make me comfortable and I would have no regrets. She and I have become closer through all this.
3. DH's son-in-law was arrested. I have blogged about that ( http://www.scrapbook.com/blogs/109057/view/158529.html ). He had his 1st court appearance yesterday. He told me that he is going to get off but it was going to cost him a 'ridiculous' amount of money. My opinion is, the fine isn't 'ridiculous', it was 'ridiculous that he got arrested in the 1st place. Especially considering he is a cop.
4. I turned 50 on November 5th and I got a case (case is very fitting as my leg swelled up enough to resemble a one) of phlebitis. Amazing and very frustrating. I am still trying to get my leg to stop swelling. The good news here is that there was no clot in the deep veins. The good news here is that my doctor said that this phlebitis is superficial and will go away and that he does not expect me to ever have another case of it.
5. My other sister-in-law's father died Sunday and his funeral is Wednesday. I know, it is nuts. He also died from bone cancer. The difference but not any less sad is that these 2 were not very close because of some events that occured in the past. She had previously lost her mother to breast cancer. I am not sure how she is doing right now but will know more later this week.
6. November is always a hard month for me because my mother, sister, and I all have birthdays this month. However, my mother and sister are both gone from this earth and I am always sad because I can't share birthday wishes with them in person. I get a bit tetchy, as they would say in the old days. I tend to fly off the hammer or cry at nothing.
7. A very good SB.com friend passed yesterday. She is very close to my age and her sudden passing has rocked me to the core and has me thinking more and more about my recent health problem. It is so sad that she has left so suddenly. I know how confused her family must feel. I will keep all in my thoughts.
I raise a glass to the next month in the hopes that it goes much better than the last 2 have. Rest and peace is needed. Hugs to everybody.
1. DH's uncle committed suicide. DH was not close to him but it is sad just the same.
2. My sister-in-law's father died from bone cancer. Very, very sad in that he suffered so much from that nasty disease. My sister-in-law put on a brave face but she was pretty devastated from the whole ordeal. She spoke to me at times when she felt others were being unfair or expected her to do things differently. She spoke to me because I told her that she had to do things her way and not the way others thought she should. I told her that because I lost my sister to cancer and I was the 1 who had to put on the brave face and I handled things in a way that would make me comfortable and I would have no regrets. She and I have become closer through all this.
3. DH's son-in-law was arrested. I have blogged about that ( http://www.scrapbook.com/blogs/109057/view/158529.html ). He had his 1st court appearance yesterday. He told me that he is going to get off but it was going to cost him a 'ridiculous' amount of money. My opinion is, the fine isn't 'ridiculous', it was 'ridiculous that he got arrested in the 1st place. Especially considering he is a cop.
4. I turned 50 on November 5th and I got a case (case is very fitting as my leg swelled up enough to resemble a one) of phlebitis. Amazing and very frustrating. I am still trying to get my leg to stop swelling. The good news here is that there was no clot in the deep veins. The good news here is that my doctor said that this phlebitis is superficial and will go away and that he does not expect me to ever have another case of it.
5. My other sister-in-law's father died Sunday and his funeral is Wednesday. I know, it is nuts. He also died from bone cancer. The difference but not any less sad is that these 2 were not very close because of some events that occured in the past. She had previously lost her mother to breast cancer. I am not sure how she is doing right now but will know more later this week.
6. November is always a hard month for me because my mother, sister, and I all have birthdays this month. However, my mother and sister are both gone from this earth and I am always sad because I can't share birthday wishes with them in person. I get a bit tetchy, as they would say in the old days. I tend to fly off the hammer or cry at nothing.
7. A very good SB.com friend passed yesterday. She is very close to my age and her sudden passing has rocked me to the core and has me thinking more and more about my recent health problem. It is so sad that she has left so suddenly. I know how confused her family must feel. I will keep all in my thoughts.
I raise a glass to the next month in the hopes that it goes much better than the last 2 have. Rest and peace is needed. Hugs to everybody.
Friday, October 23, 2009
What are you thankful for?
As the holidays approach, I think back on all the things to be thankful for...
1st, my husband's sil is in remission for Hodgkin's. We continue to hope that the last treatment will be his cure. He is looking good and seems to have a pretty good attitude.
2nd, the school year is going well. The kids have settled in quite nicely. I hope they continue on the same way.
3rd, my husband and I have celebrated our 22nd wedding anniversary. We are very happy.
4th, my sister had to have neck surgery again and she came through the surgery well. Now I am hoping that it will be the last 1 that she has to have.
5th, my husband and I both still have our jobs when so many others do not. I am sad for those having to do with out and wish them all new hope and prospects.
Finally, there are a whole host of other things for me to be thankful for that would take me quite a while to list and will bore you all to death. Just remember, as you go through this holiday season, even if things haven't been the greatest, take the time to make a list of those things that you have to be thankful for.
1st, my husband's sil is in remission for Hodgkin's. We continue to hope that the last treatment will be his cure. He is looking good and seems to have a pretty good attitude.
2nd, the school year is going well. The kids have settled in quite nicely. I hope they continue on the same way.
3rd, my husband and I have celebrated our 22nd wedding anniversary. We are very happy.
4th, my sister had to have neck surgery again and she came through the surgery well. Now I am hoping that it will be the last 1 that she has to have.
5th, my husband and I both still have our jobs when so many others do not. I am sad for those having to do with out and wish them all new hope and prospects.
Finally, there are a whole host of other things for me to be thankful for that would take me quite a while to list and will bore you all to death. Just remember, as you go through this holiday season, even if things haven't been the greatest, take the time to make a list of those things that you have to be thankful for.
Thursday, September 3, 2009
Theeeeeeeeerrrrrrrrrrreeeeeeeee Baaaaaaaaaaaack
Well, here I am, blogging. I am so irregular, I need to take a blog laxative. I swear!
Any way, the kids are back in school and we are off to a pretty good start. I sure hope it stays like this but, know that it probably will not. I get tired of the kids, the kids get tired of me. It is natural, there is nothing wrong with it.
We have our 1st 3 day weekend this weekend. I am glad. No real reason, just glad.
The 2nd week of school, I was out by the busses and as the last bus got ready to pull out, 1 of the kids stuck his head out the window and shouted, "YOU ROCK, MS. DEAN!". May not seem like a big deal to you all but, you have to understand, this boy is a 7th grader. Yep, that dreaded middle school age---tween---where all that hidden attitude pops out and drives parents totally, and I mean totally, crazy. I love them at this age. I find them to be the most interesting at this age than at any other age.
Why is it the kids act different for their teachers than their parents? I can't answer that but the stories I could tell you when we tell parents at conference how good their child is at school. Really, it is quite comical some times. LOL!
Well, it is good they are back, I needed a diversion from a 'short' summer of worrying about every body around me. It wore me out. I would much rather worry about the kids than grown-ups. No real reason why, just do.
Parents, enjoy the daily vacations, you deserve them.
Any way, the kids are back in school and we are off to a pretty good start. I sure hope it stays like this but, know that it probably will not. I get tired of the kids, the kids get tired of me. It is natural, there is nothing wrong with it.
We have our 1st 3 day weekend this weekend. I am glad. No real reason, just glad.
The 2nd week of school, I was out by the busses and as the last bus got ready to pull out, 1 of the kids stuck his head out the window and shouted, "YOU ROCK, MS. DEAN!". May not seem like a big deal to you all but, you have to understand, this boy is a 7th grader. Yep, that dreaded middle school age---tween---where all that hidden attitude pops out and drives parents totally, and I mean totally, crazy. I love them at this age. I find them to be the most interesting at this age than at any other age.
Why is it the kids act different for their teachers than their parents? I can't answer that but the stories I could tell you when we tell parents at conference how good their child is at school. Really, it is quite comical some times. LOL!
Well, it is good they are back, I needed a diversion from a 'short' summer of worrying about every body around me. It wore me out. I would much rather worry about the kids than grown-ups. No real reason why, just do.
Parents, enjoy the daily vacations, you deserve them.
Tuesday, July 21, 2009
Cruise to do list....
Pack----check
Get to dock on time with correct paper work----check
Get on boat...after 2 hours of standing in line----check
Get on boat with everything...after 2 more hours----check
Eat because it has been a long time since breakfast----check
Check the boat out----check
Find where the adults hang out----check
Find the casino----check
Be on deck when boat launches----check
Bump into 'Fun-ship Freddie' for photo op that wasn't planned----check
Go to room and change into swim suit for hang time at the all adult pool----check
Miss supper because you hung out at the all adult pool too long----check
Bump into dinner guests from your dining table after the missed supper----check
2 days later, go ashore in Jamaica----check
6 hours later, get off of bus and kiss the ground because you had a crazy Jamaican driver and you had to come back out of the hills----check
Ugh! Make it to dinner----check
Making sure taking all medications including penicillin----check
Waking up with a yeast infection from said penicillin----check
Go ashore in Grand Cayman----check
Enjoy everything but not having enough time in Grand Cayman----check
Wishing for more relief from yeast infection----check
Treatment----check
Going ashore in Cozumel----check
Wake up with Melvin (the monthly)----check
Enjoy a fun filled (not) last day at sea----check
Get off the boat before we our turn came----check, check, check!
We had a great time and some of the sights were outstanding. Next cruise....it will be a while.
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