How to dress

Today, I was watching Rachael Ray. I don't watch her often, mostly because I forget about her being on, but I am glad I saw her show today. She had the plus-size model Emme on with three ladies that wear plus-size clothing. These women are as frustrated as I am about the choice of clothing that large women have. The selection is almost disgusting. Emme is a size 14, still small for plus-size but she understands the problem(s).

First, she understands how demeaning it is to be large and trying to buy something fashionable to wear and there is nothing. She gets that most plus-size women do not want to buy clothes that only their grannies would wear.

Second, she understands that plus-size clothing is not being modeled effectively when it is being modeled by a size 10 model. It is commercial sabotage. I want to know how it looks on someone my size before I buy it. The designer, Ralph Rucci, was on Martha Stewart today, he said something like--if it isn't comfortable or look good, it is a waste of clothing--those aren't his exact words but, they make my point.

Third, she is all about large women feeling good and positive about themselves. She understands that we want to go out in public with confidence. We want to feel good about how we look even though we are large. The better we can look, the better we can feel and that can work positive toward weight loss, fighting depression, and who knows what else.

It was a good program. Emme then dressed the three ladies in some very stylish plus-size clothing that made the ladies look very modern and actually slimmed down their appearance. They then talked about how large women have spent decades trying to cover and hide their size. For years, I have been doing this. I am not and have not been comfortable with the excess weight that I put on. However, I learned, today, that covering it is just making me look larger than what I am. I had no idea.

Today, I will start changing my philosophy about how I dress. My husband has been trying to do that for me for years. He loves me just the way I am and I found out today that his ideas have been right on the mark. Buy some things that are tighter fitting, even if they do make you uncomfortable, they actually look better than you think. Buy clothing that accentuates your shape, even though some of are big, many women still have a nice shape---I do. I have avoided anything that would be tight around my waist, I shouldn't have, my waist is nice. My bottom, is nice. My legs are nice. I could use a little shaving on the hips and trimming on the belly but, overall, the rest of my body is NICE! There, I have admitted it. :)

Who would have known that it would be the husband that was right all along. I love my man. :D